Surrogacy - Priceless Act On The Part of A Surrogate Mother

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In last two weeks, there were two different news about surrogacy. The Maternity Benefits (Amendment) bill passed by the Rajya Sabha on 20 March in which some acts are changed related to surrogacy. Second news was from our film industry that a film maker get twins. Two or three years ago, surrogacy was a big topic of discussion. Although surrogacy has existed since ancient times, it does not seem to have been a popular practice among childless couples to formally seek out a surrogate. In ancient time, no surrogacy medical technique was introduced so that time did not require the actual consummation of the sexual act.

As science is boon as well as curse . Now medically advanced techniques are available. Artificial insemination opened the way to traditional surrogacy. The surrogate mother is impregnated with the sperm of the intended father. The surrogate mother is also known as the genetic mother. Surrogacy is not an accepted procedure in many countries, although some are more lenient towards altruistic surrogacy. Some countries strictly prohibit commercial surrogacy. In some country it becomes business and in India it is a fast growing business. India is increasingly becoming a sought after country for surrogate mothers. Surrogacy was legalized in India in 2002. It became popular in 2003 when a Doctor successfully delivered a surrogate child through gestational surrogacy using the genetic grandmother as a surrogate mother. 

The dictionary meaning of “surrogate mother” is a woman who bears a child on behalf of another woman, either from her own egg fertilized by the other woman's partner, or from the implantation in her uterus of a fertilized egg from the other woman.

According to a health agency, some 12% of women of reproductive age have trouble getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term. While fertility treatments are evolving, some aspiring mothers' best option especially if they don't have eggs or their eggs are unhealthy is to work with a surrogate who becomes pregnant using the would be mom's chosen sperm and the surrogate's own egg.

I am constantly amazed at the strength, resilience and determination of these women. They are supporting women through infertility. In such women you can see their endless capacity to love and care for their surrogate baby. Such women are grateful for those she is carrying baby. A good ideology behind this is that “maybe you can not change the world but you can give the world to someone and change their life.” Good point is that women felt so privileged to be able to do this. Such women fulfill the happiness of another couple. She felt in a very real way that she had made their happiness possible. It will be a very different feeling from having her own child. May be she felt like she was simply returning the baby that they had given her to care for nine months.

I was watching some episodes related to surrogacy. Words can't describe how they felt when they saw the intended parents catch the first glimpse of their newborn son nor can they describe the completeness I am sure they felt that day. There truly is no greater gift a woman can give. Surrogacy is essentially a giving, fulfilling, and priceless act on the part of a surrogate mother. This privilege of feeling as a giver is articulated and emphasized in some contexts, but is taken away in other contexts such as India, where a surrogate mother is simply left with a feeling of being just a receiver.

            While writing this post I was come to know that there are several ways you can find a surrogate mother. You can ask your friend or relative to be a surrogate for you. It's somewhat controversial. And in Indian society it is high controversial because of several Ceremony and social represents.  But in developed and European country you can find surrogacy agency. There are several agencies operating in the United States. They act as go-between. An agency helps you find a surrogate and make arrangements. It also collects fees that get passed between you and the surrogate, such as paying for her medical expenses.

            To choose a surrogate one need to follow the law instructions which is based on the medical checkup. There are some parameters for women like as surrogate should have at least 21 year old who has already given birth to at least one healthy baby so she understands firsthand the medical risks of pregnancy and childbirth and the emotional issues of bonding with a newborn. Signs a contract about her role and responsibilities in the pregnancy, such as prenatal care and agreeing to give you the baby after birth

            Legal Aspects of Surrogacy in India is different from Europe. You can only approach a close relative for surrogacy. Commercial surrogacy in India was legal but now the government approved a Bill that bans commercial surrogacy, and bars married couples who have biological or adopted children, single people, live-in partners and homosexuals from opting for surrogacy. Surrogacy will be allowed only once. The bill effectively bans foreigners to seek an Indian surrogate mother. This includes non-resident Indians (NRIs). An important change is that If you're a heterosexual married couple who have proven infertility, and you find someone who agrees to be a surrogate mother, you can't pay her. You can pay for any and all of her medical bills, but that's all. Now I should stop writing. Many points are available to discuss about surrogacy. Again will meet after a break.

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Parveen Kumar Sahrawat

You can do Master of Technology, Really?

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                    Here we are meeting first time in 2017. Year 2016 was full of surprises as well as busy for me. Whole year was a strange passion in life to complete the task and even it's going. In Hindi you can say passion means Junoon. “Zindagi mai kuch karne ke lie junoon hona chayea. Ek aisa junoon jiski koi had na ho… Ek aisa junoon jiski junoon ki bhi koi hadh na ho… means Behad junoon”. Here I would not like to talk about this issue but don’t worry when I’ll get time, I’ll share with you. But I'll share a little pleasure that I've completed my master degree. Becoming Masters of Technology was never an easy journey. It has been one hell of an experience of my life. Now, whenever I'll meet anyone, who would be doing the same, I'll have immense respect and support for that person. Now, I know what amount of hard work, worries, sleepless nights, tension, and stress, pressure the word "M.tech" carries.

Since December 2015, we were desperately waiting for M.Tech to end. Every new morning brought new tension and a day less in countdown for final presentation. For the first time in my life in last 7 years did I fear a new day. It became less of exploration and adventure but more of survival. I always knew that the day my final presentation would get over with any kind of performance given by me, the next morning would feel as if 50 kgs of weight has been put off my shoulders just as a cricketer felt after scoring his hundred. And it happened exactly

           It was a fine yet cold and fog morning of 2016. But yet, for me something was different that day. It was my last day of master college. It was finally here. Although my mind was occupied with tension for last report of the semester, my heart seems to be lost elsewhere!! But with passage of time everything become normal and it happened that time. Always remember that things will always change. Sometimes when you are scared of big moments, God makes it easy for you if you have really tried to put efforts to face it.

That is one of the strangest feelings. You will feel happy, sad, insecure and excited at the same time. In short, we're gonna miss our college days.  I felt relieved, joyful, and sad at the same time. I feel happy that I've learned so much from my friends, teachers and sad that I may never get to learn any more from them. I felt relieved because I knew that I made it through years of study and examinations.  I felt joyful because it was something that I always wanted to achieve and I finally achieved it. Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. “Do pal ki thii yeh dilon ki daastaan, Aur phir chal diye tum kaha, hum kaha”. And finally here was no emotional moment like we’ve during graduation pass out time.

Every person, literally every person in his life experiences the feeling which I’m feeling right now, the feeling which arises when you realize the truth that you will have to part from your friends. This unfortunate feeling comes only once in your life time that’s when your lovely college days end. Even the same feeling was coming in 2013 when I graduated. This time I completed my master of technology. All of college days were filled with fun and joy. I had fun almost every day when we come together. Even on the day of exam we were not serious but for mind fresh we are doing small treat and going to exam hall. This would not have been possible without the people whom I call “the gift of my life”. I don’t know who gifted me these people, I would have said god. It just happens best with all of us.

On last day of class with Classmates

            My college junction has taught me a lot. Different people have different behaviors and different trends. I have learned that in life, quality is so much more important than quantity. The truth is, friends will come and go. People from your past won’t always make it to your future, and that’s OKAY. I learned that friendship isn’t tied to who you party with or drink with. Friendship stems from so much more than that. I have friends who are like family. Some aren’t my age, but that’s the amazing thing.

I would like to thank my circle- Alok, Sidharth, Anil, and Rakesh for being reasons of continuous laughter that we had in lunch breaks and after lectures. And also thank to Aakanksh, Seema, Preety, Urmila, Milan and Renu for living in contact, giving updates and for helping. Thanks to all my classmates who always looked up at me as intelligent boy of the class. They have turned me into a confident person. I would also like to thank our Principal to inspire us whenever we met him. My class teacher for the final year gave me several opportunities which made my journey of M.Tech little more pleasing than others. Our librarian always gave us books for little more days which helped us a lot for making notes before exams. Rest; there are few people for whom I have immense respect. Aakanksha Gupta is the ultimate scholar I have ever seen in my life. The way she carried herself with perfection, dedication and knowledge, I wish I could become like her someday in any field that I chose in life. Really, you are a good speaker.

           My special thanks goes to mission M.Tech team who provided referring books for each subject which helped us to prepare for examinations easily. I would also like to acknowledge the scholar from different colleges whom I met through my venture of last minute study. They also helped me immensely by informing me about things even before my college announced the same. :-) In the end, I would like to thank my parents who have been the real inspiration and pillar because of whom many things have been possible in the journey of M.Tech. They has been like GOD for me. And lastly, thanks to my father for investing in my post graduation and making it possible for me. Otherwise, all would have been just a dream.

Parveen Kumar Sahrawat