85th BLOG POST -->>
Almery, books,
clothes, magazines, paper cutting etc were situated on the same place like a
statue from last one and half year. Just guess I was finally at my study room
after so much time and was trying to search something that I can spend my time.
I take my laptop from almery and start watching movies and after that listening
music. And at 11 O’clock at night I come out of room to take water. After that
I was trying to sleep but images of many people were travelling in my mind. But
actually I don’t know what I was judging these peoples or was trying to know
what’s going with me because of these peoples. Kher jo bhi hai kuch to chal rha
hai….!!
Truth
be told, no one has the right to judge you. People may have heard your
stories, and they may think they know you, but they can’t feel what you are
going through; they aren’t living YOUR life. So forget what they think
and say about you. Focus on how you feel about yourself, and keep walking
the path that feels best under your feet. Everything seems to
be nice. Sometimes nicer, sometimes perfect and sometimes can’t imagine what’s
going. You and I can never know what the next minute has for us. We run in our
lives. Sometimes we even drag ourselves when we find that we are not up to the
mark with the targets and deadlines. We are always happier. We deal with
people, deal with our parents or deal with so many people and situation concurrently
that sometimes one or another does not end up being in the same way as we want
them to be. And it affects us badly because of it, we end up ruining all our
activities. We end up killing many relations, many contacts, many
opportunities, many chances etc. Sometimes we don't even realize that we have
ended up being alone or villain because of things that have happened with us. I
hope all of you have related with some or the other situation of your life when
you have gone through the same. Now, don't sympathize with yourself, empathize
with others and think about others now. Situations are changing time to time.
Every time many
things happen around us. There are so
many times when we judge others. We leave them only because for their past. We
leave them because of some or many of their traits which are sin, disloyal and
invalid according to our moral and values. He/her thoughts are not matching
mine. We discard them because we feel that they have been up to an extent at
which a human can only go when he can have no respect for others or even for
himself. But there are many such situations that we have ourselves faced in our
lives. These situations hit our heart or feelings. It’s just that we coped up
with it or we didn't let anyone know about it. This does not mean that we are
better than any of them. But here we are one of them. Just imagine if people
start devaluing or ignoring you just because of some of the illegalities that
you have committed in your past which you want to desperately change but
unfortunately, a past remains the way it is. The only option that a human being
has is to move forward and leave all that is left behind. To start a new day
from this minute itself, give a wide smile and move forward to hit the another
jackpot in the way. Don’t try to think deeply about these invaluable
situations.
Here, if you are so
smart, then so many are arising in your mind? I want to say that can one really
start a new life if the person around him/her does not accept him/her with the
past? This is as wrong as spitting on someone's face just because you find that
they have a darker complexion in comparison to yours. If you have traveled 26 kilometer
on a 100-kilometer long path that is immoral and unacceptable does not mean
that you are better than someone who has traveled 72 kilometer over it. Yes you
are better than him/her but your 26 kilometers are bad than someone who has
traveled for just 5 or 10 kilometers. Right? Hope you are getting my point.
Thrums up. So when you want to be accepted by someone who is better than you,
you should also learn to accept someone who has not been better than you in
past. In this life consider your age of 26 years of ours we didn't have these
persons before. We have got them just now. Let's forgive them for their immoral
past. Just ignore their immoral past. Just imagine that was not happened in
past. Now let’s try to make them get over those days. I was being given chance
once hence I am this good today that some of you say that you want to acquire
some of my habits and etiquette. Otherwise there has been those parents too who
asked their kids to not chit-chat or stay with me because my past has not been
the way a parent want their kids' to be. It will show that there will be bed
impression on their kids. So, now as you have got these people now, guide them
from here rather than judging their life which wasn't perfect before your
arrival. I think guidance is the better option as compared to judging to
someone. But guiding is possible if he/she wants to change the situations
according to environment.
Even
when you’re alone, create a positive mental space for yourself. Make it a
point to give up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just a few of
them that have been troubling you, and see how doing that changes your
life. You don’t need negative thoughts. They are all lies.
They solve nothing. All they have ever given you is a false self that
suffers for no reason. .But today a common problem is
that suffering. If someone is going in suffering and others are going out of
suffering. This world is full of sufferings and one has to overcome from the
sufferings one has been in. There was one of my neighbor friends where I saw
that he slapped his father and left his house. When I asked him why did he do
that. I was shocked after he told me something. I didn't judge him for
thrashing his father just because I consider mine as God. This was his past.
Just because he shared this too sensitive thing with me does not mean that I
will punish him for that. He remained a good friend until he left for Mumbai
one day. Now take another example If a girl has slept with 10 ex-boyfriends in
the past. It might be because she had a very depressing life at her home and
she wanted some sort of activities that could have made her forget the nuisance
that she underwent daily. If we would judge that girl only because we got to
know about her past through some common friend of some other college, just tell
me how injustice it would be with this girl who is now a very proud single and
happy with life. She can't bring her virginity back. She can't say proudly that
I am afresh and single since birth. But if we support her now, she can at least
say after 20 years that since this point of time, my life has been as clean as
any transparent thing. Isn't it?
I have always been
very frank with my friends. I have assured everyone that their past won't make
me feel any bad for them or it won't make me judge. I have always opened myself
quite frankly on this space. Let's not reject someone for their past. I have
always made others comfortable to discuss anything with me. I know that past is
always a reflection of what we were but not what we are. It only adds experience
in our life and we should learn something with these past moments. Yes,
confessing some of our activities in public seem to be shameful but you should
do it yourself before someone else does it for you who know this particular
secret of yours. Be always proud of what your past has been even if it has been
something that you have almost forgot because it was too bad to even remember
once in five years. So friends, the only request is to not reject or bash or
ignore people for their past. Please accept them. Let them feel good about
their lives. Let them feel that they have not committed a crime but just a
silly mistake. But also make them realize that the mistakes repeated yet again
in future will cost them badly as life is in a mature phase now. But change the
lives of these people. Yours will automatically change in a very huge manner.
But devote yourself in bringing these people back to life. That's all…. Ya ab
kuch or reh gya…. So bye bye….!!
Thanks
Parveen Kumar
Sahrawat
